Right now, everything is messy. Instead of some kind of grand life experience review, this last year of my 20s has been edging into existential crisis. I’m questioning everything, and not in a rooted, spiritual kind of way, but a wandering in the storm clouds kind of way. My sense of meaning and purpose has all but evaporated. I feel disconnected from most of the people in my life.
I know part of this feeling is the instability of the world. Trump is a presidential nominee. A Stanford swimmer received a mere 6 months of prison for raping an unconscious woman. Climate change continues to wreak havoc on the planet, from drought to pests to seemingly ever extreme natural disasters. A friend told me the other day about a study of children that said 12 year olds are operating with the emotional intelligence of 8 year olds because technology is separating them from learning healthy ways of interpersonal interaction. I am genuinely afraid for our planet.
My own cynicism is part of my unmooring as well, my strange personal alchemy of brain chemicals and habits that constantly toss me between anxiety and depression. I don’t believe in soulmates anymore. Due to personal life circumstances, and the world at large (see above), I am far less idealistic than I used to be. This makes me even more depressed, and then I’m back in the cycle of melancholy and uncertainty.
In the midst of this, I’m trying to remember what makes me feel present, centered, optimistic, joyful. Yoga helps immensely. So does working on my herbalism studies. Dancing. Walks in nature. But I never feel like there’s enough time for any of these things. The demands of cleaningbillschoresemailsworkresponsibilities take over, and days pass with only a perfunctory attempt at soul satisfaction.
I’ve been craving a clean start. I always have an instinct to run away when life feels mired in impossibility. Is this cowardice? Or self preservation?
Listening to: Avicii
To be surrounded by green and sunlight.
To create spaces to be filled with the many kinds of love we create and share.
To be peaceful.
To grow health and food. To share these with both loved ones and those in need.
To have time and inspiration to write the meaningful stories that live in my heart.
To co-create beautiful and useful places.
To care for animals as part of a healthy ecosystem and family.
To connect deeply with the land. To notice and cherish the turn of its seasons.
To be filled with joy and curiosity.
To co-create a community of sustainable interdependence and respect.
To help foster the dreams of others.
To live without the plague of guilt.
So simple, and yet so grand. The farming season has begun, so as I become immersed in details of planting plans and watering schedules, I hope to continue coming back to this, my dream, the true future I crave in my soul and am committed to fostering.
What is your dream?
Right now I’m listening to: Iron & Wine
Last year, around this time, I set an intention of marking nature holidays – solstices, equinoxes, and the pagan holy days halfway in between. I did pretty well with the 2015 Spring Equinox, writing up a lovely little ritual based on the elements after reading about historical ceremonies and goddesses connected with the day. I haven’t quite reached that level of ceremony for the holidays since, but hope to begin next year’s round by putting together a weekend retreat to celebrate Imbolc, the early February holiday of fertility, cleansing, and the first signs of early spring.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. The Winter Solstice just passed, and with it the darkest day of the year. I always want to do a mini dance to celebrate having made it through this super challenging time, the several months where all so many of us can do is take Vitamin D, hang out at conservatories, and binge on Netflix in hopes of distracting ourselves from the incredible lack of Sol Invictus, the invincible sun. We somehow make it through every year though, and learning more about the roots of the holiday somehow make it easier. Astrology is a particular focus of mine, and the social justice and positivity-focused postings of Chani Nicholas are a particular favorite of mine.
“You can become a source of revolutionary self-love. You can become an unending source of appreciation and acceptance for yourself.”
I’m still working on setting intentions for the new year, but I am certain they will include continued learnings and focus on herbalism, astrology, and magic. What do you want to manifest in this next wheel of the year?
Right now I’m listening to: Fleetwood Mac, all the albums, always.
It has been an EXCEEDINGLY long time since I’ve blogged. I’ve gone through several iterations of ‘I really just hate how much time is taken up by silly technology, so I should eschew it in order to live up to some ridiculous moral standard I have arbitrarily set for myself’. But I’m getting over it. Because I really do write more when I use a computer, and have an audience, however meager and elusive it might be, holds me accountable.
So here I am. Back again. ::cue some ridiculous 80s soundtrack::
2015 has been a crazy year of becoming someone I would actually venture to say is an adult. Part of this has been by choice (setting boundaries in my committed relationships, starting a farm and business with my partner, leaving a job that was meaningful but drained me), and part of it has been completely out of my control (the sudden death of my previous partner). It’s all given me a pretty solid shake up as to what is important though, in this short life we have on this marvelous blue planet. So here’s the wisdom I’ll start my new blogging era with, things I have to remind myself of pretty much every day in order to stay reasonably happy and sane:
- Do what you love. Every day. Gently but firmly leave behind the things that don’t feed your soul.
- Practice radical self love first and foremost, so that you have the energy to be a rock for those who need it. When friends, family, and acquaintances are brave enough to reach out to you, make time for them. Very few things are as important as this.
“Instructions for living a life:
Tell about it.”
Things that inspire me right now: Felicia Day’s memoir. Baking bread. Herbalism rooted in social justice. Local businesses standing up against bigotry.
I have come to the thorough conclusion that we, the modern humans, are desperately in need of mystery. Not the Sherlock Holmes kind, but the spiritual kind, the deep magic kind, the lovely imaginary world kind. This delightful and dark Tumblr I discovered through 8tracks case in point. The Sandman series I am rereading as well. We long for something beyond the veil, beyond the material.
This winter shall be the perfect time to devote to the study of mystery, the cold clarity of days and murky mystique of hot toddys an ideal combination for delving Beyond.