A couple of years ago I decided to begin recommitting to my best self each new year; I still find the calendar year somewhat arbitrary, and prefer my birthday and seasonal holidays (solstices and equinoxes and the like) as marking points in time for ritual and centering. However, it is nice to engage in renewal in solidarity with others while still making it my own, so I began creating yearly Practices to Enact. I’m sure I did them for 2013, but must have felt that they didn’t need to be publicly posted. 2012’s Practices are here though.
Each year, coming up with practices is an exercise in balance between the practical/measurable, and the nebulous big picture sorts of projects and self improvements that I am truly most interested in. I refuse to set myself up for failure, so too many ‘I will do x thing y number of times per week/month’ is no good. But if everything is huge and general then how do I check in later in the year to see where I am? In a way I think I subconsciously modeled 2014’s Practices after my post bike tour life focuses, because it was really the first time I was able to make an honest assessment of myself and my priorities and set ambitious yet realistic goals for myself.
In 2014 I shall:
- Commit to being a writer, to cultivating this skill, to practicing my craft, and to giving myself the gift of time to do this. Perhaps at least a two hour, undistracted portion of time each week? At least to begin with.
- I commit to continuing on my path to fully loving my body, to treating this part of myself with respect through good food and continual strengthening through work outs and bike trips and really ambitious sex.
- I commit to letting go of shame an guilt in my life, recognizing that these are a tragic waste of my life energy, and instead will love my Self and my emotions, as well as those around me.
- I commit to solitude, to noticing when I want/need it, and to attending to that desire, recognizing that I am the best version of myself when I have time with myself.
- I commit to saying YES to life, to new friends and opportunities. This life in this body is short, and the time where I am this physically and mentally able is even shorter. Memories are not made through routine and caution, and I will trust in both my intuition and my support network to keep me from harm.
- I commit to continuing to expand the boundaries of both my patience and my vulnerability, so that I might be in deeper relationship with others.
- I recommit to noticing and noting beauty, and to sharing those moments with others without embarrassment or expectation.
- I commit to drinking less, and i am lucky to have many wonderful people in my life who support this. My body is already thanking me for this one.
What are you committing to this new year?